Gratitude Month 2026: Deep Conversation

 

Anyone who knows me knows that I could talk the ear off a horse—or whatever that saying is. I talk small talk, big talk, and everything-in-between talk, but my favorite kind of talk is deep talk. Not everyone revels in argumentation, complex concepts, and random trains of thought that bring you to truly contemplate the important and eternal things in life. I will be friends with anyone and everyone, yet I tend to gravitate toward those individuals who appreciate and enjoy deep conversation. It is usually self-professed nerds like myself who love deep conversations, and I am here for it. 

The other day, I was part of one of these treasured talks, and I was asked how I would define love. My first response was that love equals loyalty, and I gave evidence to support my claim. The talking kept going and even weaved into other conversations, then, something someone said provided me more clarity on how I could describe love, and it is affectionate loyalty. This description can apply to any form of human love that we share. I give affectionate loyalty to my children, my brothers, my parents, my extended family, my friends, my coworkers, and my employer even. Each iteration of love looks different, but the definition stands true to how I live life. 

I would like to give affectionate loyalty to a romantic subject again someday, God willing. I must say I am not grateful for the realization that I have never received genuine affectionate loyalty in this form, but I still seek it, so I guess I am thankful I still have hope that I can find someone capable of reciprocating romantic affectionate loyalty for me.

So today, I am thankful for the deep conversations I have had in my life and the recent one that got me thinking about something that brings me hope. And I am thankful that I am someone capable of loving the intellect it takes to hold these types of conversations.  

Gratitude Month 2026: Good Music

 

I was raised around good music. Between my parents' wide range of musical tastes and growing up in the 1980s and early 1990s, I have experienced the best of the best throughout time, so whenever anyone asks me what is my favorite type of music, I literally say one word—good. Not all music is good, but you can find good songs in just about any genre. Some of my favorite genres with many good songs in them include classical, classic rock, new wave, alternative, country, and gospel music. I enjoy songs in other genres as well, but these are what I probably listen to most as they bring happiness, understanding, and light to my days. 

Going to live musical performances is another facet of my gratitude for good music. There is nothing like hearing a live orchestra or a choir singing in front of your very eyes, and I will add how much I love watching a marching band competition played outside on the football field. It is all so good to me! 

I am so grateful for the gift of music that has been ever present in my life. 

Gratitude Month 2026: Friends

 

Throughout my life, I have had friends, and as I continue in life, I realize that this luxury is not the case for everyone. Not everyone knows how to make friends, and it has always come naturally to me. I have childhood friends I have known since I was four and five years old, and I do not take that for granted. Another section of friends I will never take for granted are the people who have known me since we were teenagers. Holding onto even one friendship during such a tumultuous development period seems like a miracle to me, and I have been able to stay connected with many of these amazing people who helped to shape who I am today. I have a best friend whom we have known each other since fourteen years old, and I am always astonished that she has not gotten fed up with my antics by now. Not even kidding! 

I have so many dear friends that it would take a book to write about everyone, but I simply want to pay honor to each of you who have blessed my life so much. You have been so good to me even if was only for a moment or for years. I am thankful for you. And I want to say thank you to anyone who is soon to become my friend—buckle up! 

Gratitude Month 2026: My Children

It has been quite the journey, becoming a mother and watching everyone grow up while I feel like I am still growing up. Watching my children develop and learn has been the work of my life and a true joy to see them becoming such goodhearted, strong, mindful, resilient people. My heart appreciates all the lovely moments, the birthday parties, the playdates, the mom-times, the road trips, the movie nights, all of it. All those same things are past though, and I look forward to the now, every time we can gather, every time even one of them chooses to pause their big life to keep our family ties strong. 

I am grateful for four of the best teachers I could ask for, showing me the way to become my best self, teaching me that God sees me and us and will keep his promises because He has time and time again for us. So thankful to be a mother. 

Gratitude Month 2026: My Parents

Over the last few weeks, my mom and dad have been on my mind so much. I even had a dream with my dad in it that was so vivid that it felt real until I was awake and had to talk myself into reality. He and I were walking around our family home's property assessing the patches of grass that were not growing properly and the patches where it needed to be mowed, and it was all so easygoing just how we used to talk when we would go on walks or shooting the breeze. Just before I woke up, he was telling me essentially that we have a good plan for things, and we agreed that it will all work out if we do what we planned. I cannot help but continue to believe it was a visit like my mom's dream last year (or early on this year), but somehow, I was not freaked out, just so comfortable with talking and walking around our old backyard. 

The only problem is now I have my parents on my mind daily, and there is nothing to do but miss them. Well, there is something. I have been preparing to write my mom's biographical sketch and have put out a call for stories, so there is that. No one has sent me any stories yet, so that has been hard, but I will be participating in National Novel Writing Month by working on her story, so I can have it together as much as possible by the end of November and put the finishing touches on over Christmas break hopefully. 

My gratitude runs deep for these two wonderful and regular and extraordinary and very missed people. They took a chance on love between two very different people, gave me life and my brothers too, and ran the course through the rest of their lives never giving up even when it might have seemed easier to do so. 

Love and miss them and appreciate them beyond any description I can write here. 

Happy First Day of Gratitude Month! 

Gratitude: Memories

 

Not all memories are good ones, but today, I am thankful for every good memory I have from the past, the present day, and for the hope of good ones ahead. When I was a teenager, my mother wrote me a note since she could not be there to help me get ready for my first homecoming dance, and she said, "I hope there have been enough good times to outweigh the bad," and that sentiment has stuck with me ever since. I did not appreciate it fully at the time, but as the years without her add up, I hold to that wish of hers as a promise that good memories will always outweigh the bad. I have seen it happen. I have learned to let go of the bad and focus on all the good that comes my way, and I am just so grateful to have the chance each day to try to outweigh the bad with all the good that we keep on striving for. I am so grateful for the memories I have made this month alone with focusing on gratitude and introducing another set of students to this mindfulness project that is truly life changing and wonderful. I hope you, Reader, have enjoyed the read and have tried to find something to be thankful for each day as well. Until next time...

Gratitude: Christmas Lights

 

I am sure it began when I was a small child, sitting in front of the Christmas tree with its lights all aglow, wishing for good things to come. So now, when I have my Christmas tree up, I will plug in the lights in the early morning and at nighttime and sit gazing on the soft light and reflect and wish and hope. Gratitude runs deep for the comfort and joy I have in Christ, and the Christmas lights remind me of all that He made possible for me and all of us. Christmas lights remind me of the birth of Jesus Christ but also the light of hope I have for being with my family in heaven and throughout eternity. And I am so very grateful for every reminder, especially Christmas lights today, that keep me hopeful for good things to come. 

Gratitude: The Pilgrims

 I come from a long line of immigrants to this land we call America, and I am grateful for each one of them who took their life into their hands and tried this American Experiment. I can trace ancestors from the 1600s who came as early settlers in the Massachusetts Bay Colony and elsewhere, and it gives me a sense of ownership of my destiny as an American knowing that my long line of American-minded family members sacrificed to make a new and different life for themselves and their posterity. I am thankful for all of the good, determined, faithful folks who did strive and fight for a better way. Whether my direct ancestors or otherwise, I know it takes community to survive in unsettled wilderness, and I am grateful for what they did to pave the way for my freedom and comfort. I am so blessed by their efforts and even their lives. 

Gratitude: Visitors

 

Especially at Thanksgiving and Christmas, visiting and being visited are a thing, and I am here for it. I love it. In recent years, I have not been as able to go visiting very far from home, but I have had family come to me, and I love it so much. One of my brothers who lives about 500 miles away will be coming to visit for early Thanksgiving, and I am so thankful that he would take time and money to come see me and my children. It means so much. I am grateful for the various vehicles that make all visiting possible too. Without the vehicles, we would be stuck like it used to be before modern transportation provided more freedom of movement. Vehicles and visitors go hand in hand, and I am thankful today for both. 

Gratitude: Thanksgiving Break

 There is a saying that you should create a life that you do not need a vacation from. I feel that. As someone who chose the teaching profession, I learned quickly that the breaks are absolutely essential. Maybe I am doing things wrong, but I cannot seem to keep up on health and wellness other than during breaks. I am grading and lesson planning and organizing and conferencing, etc. eight to ten hours a day (sometimes eleven to twelve when grading is piled high), and it just does not leave time to do much else except be mentally and physically exhausted. I have been evaluating what I assign and how I measure student performance in order to work smarter not harder, so my hopes are high that I will soon not have to be on such a grind. I am in my eleventh year of teaching now, so I feel like I probably should have figured this out by now. My only  excuse is that I have been teaching a wide range of classes over the years, and only in these last two school years have I been teaching core English classes again. That has got to be the issue. That all said, I am exceedingly grateful to have this Thanksgiving break to take care of myself and my family and my home. The comfort and peace it is giving me is palpable. I needed these days off to recuperate, rejuvenate, and restore. 

Gratitude: Innovation

 

I don't know about you, but my life has been blesses beyond measure by innovative minds who create inventions and/or take old things and repurpose them to new ways of doing things. It has been phenomenal to witness in my lifetime the many new things that change my life and make life better. I am in true awe as I contemplate all of the blessings come from sheer innovation. Computers, phones, dishwashers (I did not grow up using one), microwave ovens, washers and dryers (I did not grow up using a dryer either), safer Christmas lights, and the list goes on and on and on! So many wonderful and good things that make my life so good. I am exceedingly thankful for anyone who works to innovate for the good of humanity. 

Gratitude: Sight

 

It is natural to take for granted the things that come easy, so taking the time to notice things like the ability to see is important. I used to have perfect sight, but getting older has stolen that from me. Nevertheless, I can still see very well, and I have access to an optometrist and glasses that make my sight almost as good as it was. I am so grateful that I can see. Being able to look out my windows is glorious and calming as I see the beautiful sky filled with clouds and enjoy the radiant sunlight. The gift of sight is precious and important, and I am thankful for it. 

Gratitude: Calm

 

As a teacher and a single mother and a me, I rarely know calm. I never really have but on very few and far between occasions. So when I saw the opportunity to get a substitute teacher for a couple of days before Thanksgiving break, jumped at the chance. And I am happy to say, I am on the road toward calm, and it feels nice, really nice. I have taken care of almost my entire random you can only take care of these things between 9-5 list, and we are not even to Thanksgiving yet. This means my home might actually get completely clean if I can keep my eye on the prize. You might be asking what does this have to do with calm? Well, when all the random things are taken care of and my home is clean, I feel like I can actually have a minute to breathe. I have not been a stay-at-home mom for over a decade, but those were the days when I could achieve some calm from time to time when all the errands were ran, dinner was cooking, the children were playing, and I had finished whatever cleaning project that day. Yet, I digress. Long gone are those days, but I remember what helps me to enjoy a sliver of calm, and today, I can see it coming toward me on the horizon. 

Gratitude: Jolabokaflod

 

January through October, my book club reads a book and has a potluck discussion about the book. And every November, we get together to celebrate the year of reading and discuss what books we want to nominate for the upcoming year. When planning what I want my book club to look like, I decided that I loved the Icelandic tradition of Jolabokaflod, exchanging books and eating chocolate at Christmastime, so we celebrate with a book flood of books to give to each other, chocolate, and a different Christmas themed party each year. Last year, we had a chocolate and fondue fancy night in theme, and this year was a pancakes and pajamas party theme. And every year, we have a nice array of chocolate and delicious food items, and it always feels like a wonderful way to wrap up the year of reading with the women who join in with me. I am thankful for each of the women past and present who have been part of my book club, for all they do to invite and attend to make it a rejuvenating time for themselves and me. I am thankful for all of that because it makes it possible to even need to do the special end of year/Christmas season kickoff, our version of Jolabokaflod. We just enjoyed our Jolabokaflod last night, and it did not disappoint. So much fun talking books and hanging out and eating delicious food and treats. I am already looking forward to it again next year! 

Gratitude: Clean Water

 

Every year, I write about being thankful for clean, fresh water, and every year, I mean it. I will not take for granted this amazing life-giving necessity that comes to me without delay, on tap, every single day of my life so far. I have water to use for cooking, cleaning, bathing, and drinking, and it has rarely ever been in limited supply. Access to clean water keeps me and my family healthy and very happy. I am so grateful to have clean water to use every day. 

Gratitude: Movies

 

Going to the movies was a big part of my childhood and beyond. My parents would take us on opening weekends and even try to get first showings for some movies. I grew up and my children grew up going to the drive-in and movie theater as well as enjoying an extensive home movie collection. The great thing about collecting movies still is that even if I do not have a certain streaming service or no streaming services carry the movie I want to watch, if I have it in my collection, I am good to go. I have made sure to get some of my obscure favorites while I still could, and it has definitely paid off. I am developing a top 50 or maybe a top 100 best movies of all time list for my 50 Things by 50 challenge, and I am feeling excited to work on that some more after contemplating how thankful I am for movies. Movies bring smiles and tears, but most of all, they bring back some of my happiest everyday memories that I can think of. 

Gratitude: Christmastime

 

I am one of those on November 1 I decorate for Christmas people. I am also one of those if I can help it I leave up my Christmas stuff through Epiphany people. The extreme nostalgia and joyful focus on Jesus Christ just calls for some extra special decor if you ask me. I also love kicking off the season with Christmas songs right away. But one of the aspects of Christmastime I am most thankful for is the increase focus on striving to be Christlike and thinking of others. My imperfections help me keep it real, but I always am watching for what I might to do lift where I stand, what would God want me to do to help others like His Son. Christmastime is a time of giving and receiving, loving and striving, remembering and worshiping, and I am thankful for a Heavenly Father who sent His Son to redeem my soul. So very thankful for Jesus and His birth and life given for me and for you.   

Gratitude: Sleep

 

Since the summertime, I have been focusing on getting better and more sleep. It has been a much more difficult task than I had anticipated. For some reason, my body does not want to let me get more than six and half hours on average each month. It used to be only six hours and fifteen minutes, and I am not sure if this small adjustment has made a difference. I think it has, so I am thankful for this small progress. Sleep helps so many things for our bodies, and I am grateful to be making even little steps in helping my health. 

Gratitude: Prayer

 

Not a day goes by that I do not reach to my Heavenly Father for guidance, inspiration, discernment, and hope. I am thankful for my parents who shared the gospel of Jesus Christ with me as a child and set me on a path to know Him and our God who loves us all. I am thankful for the ability to pray each day to God and for the ability to hear Him and feel His love in my life. 

Gratitude: Fresh Air

 

Breathing easy is not something to take for granted. There are places around the world with significant air pollution levels, and they cannot see the stars at night because it is so bad. Granted, many places with air pollution issues also have light pollution at play, but I digress. The fact remains that it is a blessing to have fresh air to breathe. The rain, snow, and even wind that helps keep the air clear throughout the year are blessings, and I am thankful for each day that I can be outside and breathe easy.