riding a bike



My little boy still struggles with riding a bike. I didn't realize it because I haven't prioritized buying him a bike for at my house since he has one at his dad's, and I don't like to steal thunder. I just assumed he knew how. But tonight, some friends gave him a bike, so he wanted to practice, and I didn't realize I was going to feel so brokenhearted.

I didn't realize my sweet little guy didn't have the confidence to just get on the bike and ride it home. I didn't realize he needed me out there to watch him to feel safe and confident while he practiced wobbling along the sidewalk. He was so cute as he voiced feeling grateful that he has grass to land on just in case. I'm glad I was able to see him overcome his hesitant outlook and be able to make the turns "without stopping at all."

It got me thinking about my experience when learning to ride a bike. It was so different. I don't recall where I got the bike from, but I do remember it was a yellow banana seat bike with those crazy handle bars that remind me of Harleys. I also remember getting on that bike and not stopping until I could ride that bike. I got skinned up knees because I was riding my new bike in a dress of all things. Not so good for when you fall on blacktop. But quite fancy, I guess. So anyway. I stayed out there trying and trying and trying until I could do it. It happened at dusk when there was barely enough light to snap a photo, but I have one. My mom had got out the camera and caught me smiling and riding my bike. She caught my determination on film. It has been a long time since I saw that photo, so I'm not sure where that photo is, but when I do find it, I'll add it here.

My bicycle story is so different from my son's. But my entire childhood is very different as well. I don't want to get into the fine details, but I'll just say that I'm thankful for my dad who loved my mom and worked hard and did what it took to stay. I'll add that I'm thankful for my mom who loved my dad and worked hard and did what it took to stay. They each had their faults and opinions that could drive someone away, but they loved each other enough to do what it takes to make things work. So much sacrifice and loving care. So much meeting in the middle and going to the other side at times. So much sharing the load. Even with all the abuse I suffered, I had confidence because of them. I just know it.


8 comments:

  1. What a gift to your son, that he has you :)
    Bonnie K

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  2. So sweet. I think today is different than when we were growing up. I suspect we have variedbicycle stories. A window to our life and times perhaps.

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  3. I love how your mom captured your determination on film. It's interesting how a photo can trigger our memories. It seems like you relied on this photo (even though you haven't seen it in awhile) as you wrote your memories.

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  4. I love your son's attitude and I love that you were there for him. Great post!

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  5. I love your son's attitude and I love that you were there for him. Great post!

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  6. I don't really remember learning how to ride a bike either; however, it was certainly a great risk taking activity that I, like you son and you, learned with support from a loved adult who cared about me.

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  7. I don't really remember learning how to ride a bike either; however, it was certainly a great risk taking activity that I, like you son and you, learned with support from a loved adult who cared about me.

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  8. Reminded me of my own bike-riding debut :) Thanks for this layered slice where the little moment leads to bigger ones.

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