This might be a crazy random thought, but I was watching a movie the other night and I saw Tom Cruise kissing Cameron Diaz in Knight and Day (side note: it is a bizarre yet entertaining movie if you're in a bizarre mood) and the whole concept of permissible infidelity flashed before my eyes.
So, I totally do not know either of these individuals personally, but I do know that Tom Cruise is married with children and just because he got paid a ton of money to be in a movie somehow it should be wildly romantic or even hot to watch him lovin' all over someone other than his wife. I guess we call that acting, yet I wonder if a great deal of the inability to stay married or even wanting to get married among Hollywoodites and spread throughout our media-charged society can be partly attributed to this permissible infidelity factor, as I call it.
I am certain that I could never watch a movie with my significant other kissing someone else, let alone pretend love-making. Wow. Can you imagine it?! Sitting at the theater next to your partner for life and viewing him/her appearing to be madly in love with someone else, touching all (or almost all) over them, and actually kissing them on the mouth; then, go home, eat dinner and be all happy and chatty and hop into bed together like you didn't just witness an infidel on the screen (albeit feigned). Madness would totally set in for me. I could not deal with it. Could you?
And we go to the movies all the time wherein actors (aka real live people with feelings, aspirations, children, etc.) experience this scenario, or something similar, continually on a grand scale. The entire movie-going public witnesses these empty touches and kisses and such. I believe the pressure of it all gets to be quite burdensome for many of these actors and they succumb to it and begin living an over-romanticized drama of a life and can no longer taste what love really is.
Then there is the clincher—the feigned love appears to be so attractive, sexy, and adventurous when compared with the day to day love that requires one hundred percent fidelity. Why would anyone want the drudgery of absolute emotional, romantic, and physical loyalty to one person for forever?
The answer comes in the fact that when love life has this quality of complete fidelity, it is amazingly good and not just good for a little while. I am talking about good forever.
The term permissible infidelity is an oxymoron of the highest degree, yet I am certain I own a decent amount of films that have married to- or seriously dating- other-people-than-the person-they-just-did-stuff-with actors and actresses. I just don't know exactly which ones. And to be completely honest, is any of that for me to know? I don't know. Do we just close one eye and pretend that it isn't infidelity if they don't mean it or are getting paid a million dollars to do it? Or if it doesn't cause that marriage to get ripped apart? Is permissible infidelity a creation for the sake of art? My curiosity is piqued.
So many questions . . . I would completely love to hear what you think of all this can of worms I have been opening up and playing around with.
What do you think of the concept of permissible infidelity and its implications within our society?
My inquiring mind really wants to know.